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Sugar Cane 


Strange to write, but the sweetest grass I have ever tasted is called nzimbe. It’s grown in Zimbabwe and called sugarcane as you probably call it where ever you are. Rich in glucose and vitamin, I wish there was a nzimbe-flavored cider drink. Perfect for Summer, init?!

Why do I tell you?

Well, its because Zimbabwe has an illustrious town called Triangle in the South Eastern region of the country where sugar trade is key to the survival of the local economy.  It rides on sugar production and the people are particularly proud of this asset. The weather is like the gateway to hades. Too hot, dry and unimaginable temperatures, however this is the perfect climate for sweet natural tasting sugar cane.

May Triangle remain as productive as it’s been for the sugar industry!

After recovering from a bout of worry, and personally-inflicted pressure and stress, I sought temporary relief from my local pub one evening. Why did I go to the pub? What I like about my pub is that it is the most liberal place in all of our conservative Upstate South Carolina city. I meet people from all walks of life and  have precious, memorable and riveting conversations with all patrons including the cooks, waitresses, friends, strangers, depressants, liars, clergymen, lawyers, professor’s but best of all,  I write best in this environment.  This pub is an honest institution.  It’s a family of regulars – the old, the young, the lost, the found.  It rarely judges. It’s a peaceful place too, and ironically a destructive place for some. The irony and beauty of alcohol and great conversation is that it provides temporary relief, yet I have seen many entangled in it’s side effects, including myself.

Nonetheless, on this Tuesday evening, a Kenyan lager called Tusker was offered by the lovely Amarie. Amarie is the pub’s all-star server. You really could buy anything so long as Amarie was selling it. Mulato skin, she has dark intent and hardworking eyes and a natural smile that warms. Her personality makes suicidal patrons reconsider the deed and she regularly fishes depressants out of the quicksand. After a couple of sips, I began a casual conversation with a regular called Adam Kingsley – now a trusted friend and brother.

Adam shared with me his prior married life and pictures of his beautiful young daughters he is proudly and inspiringly raising. He’s a Soccer Dad. Haha! Class. This gentleman looks Mediterranean, I thought.  He’s a clean cut lad. He’s polite, well travelled, and as honest as as a mirror. His daily job and mission is to help others and I felt attached to this servitude because I consider myself called to do the same. I shared my tension in my current relationships and he introduced a concept to me that will forever be the mantra of my relationship goals-setting because ever since I comprehended his words, the tension has somewhat dissipated, and confidence firmly restored.  He introduced the equilibrium of a relationship as a TRIANGLE and now you can connect the dots with sugarcane and Triangle.

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I asked him to clarify what he meant.

He said for the success and enrichment of any relationship, you have to have a triangle. God at the top, man at the right and woman at the left.  The two cannot manage the relationship by referring to each other’s, traits, goals, appearances, mistakes, successes, flaws and history. None of that really matters, unless both are engaged and focussed on top of the triangle. WOW, I thought, so simple, but rarely is this concept applied due the high rate of domestic violence, divorce and infidelity we alll know too well about.

People aren’t selfless enough and make emotional decisions, without asking what is it that God wants.  God requires us to please him at all times and be the salt of the earth.  Every person in a relationship should ask if what I am doing pleasing to God!

Is what you are doing pleasing to God?

One Tuesday evening , I sat over dinner with a female friend of almost a decade.  Her name is Ms. Paltrow. She taught me about the word, “sonder”. To sonder is to realize other peoples’s unverbalized experiences.  You never know what a stranger is going through. Sometimes you don’t know what your spouse or girlfriend is going through so dealing with them directly isn’t always optimum. Refer to the triangle for guidance is all I can say.

It’s not about me, it’s not about her for its about what God says. If both apply this simple concept, equilibrium manifests itself. Balance occurs and a firm reference point provided.  A framework for all unanswered questions and emotions. I had not began to immediately apply this concept, but I can tell you it began to make marginal gains in my own journey.

There are thousands of scriptures inscribed about marriage and relationships. I mean just check out Song of Songs. I chuckle as I write this  because Song of Songs should be rated “No Under 13”. I think MARRIED couples should have a weekly Song of Songs read.  Bring the fire back people, Bring the fire!

So every time I meet a couple going through the growing pains, the oil changes and considerations of breakups or divorce, I tell them about the triangle. Life is much too short to ponder, to worry for you’ll fall into an abyss of confusion and sorrow.

I began to think of my Amai naBaba and these words were furnished on one rainy Sunday evening while in Northamptonshire, England.

Amai naBaba

Mhofu,

You’re strong, wise and ridiculously able,
You’re a wounded shepherd, your story would be thought of as a warrior’s fable,
Private, pensive, I know God guides you while carrying you in his safe cradle,
I’m honoured to call you father, a leader, a MAN who is cautious and sharp as a needle.

Amai,

You’re loving, considerate and unimaginably blind,
Your love unconditional,
Gifted, caring, you have a precious mind,
You give it ALL and I know you give more than the expected tithe,
Now I know where I get my generosity, my positivity, and my sight.

God,

You’re the head of the triangle,
The Alpha, the Omega and Omnipotent Guide.
Show Mhofu and Amai to draw from your presence, your words, your Love,
Banish resentment, negative spirits, danger, fear, worry, anxiety from their Lives,
Rain peace, rain love, affection and stimulate the jive!
The glory, the fire, the fond memories, the battle, the fight,
The good fight of faith, that strengthens and binds.

God, Mhofu and Amai, I love you. May the triangle be ever present, alive and illuminate your matrimony.

Taste the lasting sweetness of the sugar cane you’ve grown, nurtured and blessed to have!

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© SonofGuruve 2016

Allan Manyika

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29 comments on “Sugar Cane 

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  2. Ms Paltrow
    March 13, 2016

    Blessed to know you and touched that our conversation contributed to this beautiful piece of art!!

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  3. Brittany
    February 21, 2016

    I absolutely enjoyed this! Very deep and the overall message is awesome.

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  4. Natasha Tinsley
    January 21, 2016

    Beautifully written and very encouraging! You have a great talent in writing!

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    • sonofguruve
      January 21, 2016

      Thank you Natasha! You inspire me with your kind words.

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  5. tendai
    January 19, 2016

    What a truly God inspired piece. Keep them coming. I loved it

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    • sonofguruve
      January 19, 2016

      Thanks Tendai. It’s God’s work. Let’s do it. You and I helping the masses!

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  6. Ola
    January 14, 2016

    Well written. Good job!

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  7. Vinny
    January 13, 2016

    Nicely written mate, keep it up though, consistency is the most difficult part of blogs and many other things for that matter, boom!

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    • sonofguruve
      January 13, 2016

      There’s more where this came from. For now, thanks very much Vinny! I’ll keep them coming. The hobby is improving day by day. My currency and fuel is your feedback.

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  8. Evon
    January 12, 2016

    What a beautiful message. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your heart.

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  9. Lorraine Manyika
    January 12, 2016

    Beautiful writing and so true

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  10. Kudzayi
    January 11, 2016

    Great approach really enjoyed it, but also wanted to add that a relationship = friendship. I believe a girl a boy are supposed to look for a friend a companion not amai or wife to be because that is one thing that leads to divorces. Women tend to pretend if they know your intentions are to make them their wives and hence they do not show you their true character. An example is when a girl is shy when they are around you that shows that they are not comfortable with being around you. I believe being with a partner who is your friend is the source of a good relationship and above all having God as the leader.

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    • sonofguruve
      January 11, 2016

      Thanks Kudzayi. Friendship is definitely an ingredient of the recipe. For the friendship to prosper, it’s God who provides a platform for union, overcoming pretentious or shy behavior as you mentioned.

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  11. Ranga
    January 11, 2016

    Very insightful and relevant. Thank you for sharing. Wagona mfana!

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    • sonofguruve
      January 11, 2016

      Thanks Baba! Just trying to change the discourse between all my loved couples out there!

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  12. sonofguruve
    January 9, 2016

    Thank you all for your comments thus far! I’m so honored to receive your honest feedback!

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  13. vanessa
    January 9, 2016

    awesomeness………

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  14. Mudhara Banda
    January 9, 2016

    Dude. Brilliant insight. You have a gift with words and outlook. Keep it up.

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  15. Annette
    January 9, 2016

    Very well written! Beautiful words & inspiring message! More people need to follow these principles. Fantastic job Allan!

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  16. Nea
    January 9, 2016

    A very timely message as relationships are under attack. Thanks for sharing your insight

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  17. P Munzeve
    January 8, 2016

    Fantastic writer, very inspirational , valuable teachings imbedded in your writings Allan.

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  18. L'entendre
    January 8, 2016

    Damn. To be honest. I can’t recall the last time I read something so powerful and relevant!! This is beyond brilliant!

    As the story goes, we find the girl are joined as one before God. According to our belief, the fact that the beginning of a marriage is signified by God blessing the union sets the tenor of the manner in which we are supposed to do life as husband and wife. Just as God the father walked with Adam and Eve in the garden, I believe to this day he walks with us daily as husband and wife.

    I see God working everyday in the love that my wife selflessly shows and I aspire to be an example of God’s grace as you have depicted in your colourful depiction.

    Thank you for sharing your profound thoughts.

    Tapi

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  19. shingimavima
    January 8, 2016

    Very well-written and insightful.
    Stumbled to see where this was headed initially, but enjoyed it once I got into it!
    Things to consider as we all build our relationships

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